"My head and my heart were both in a dark place. Being mentally scared, messed up my emotions and actions. I've hurt so many people because I couldn't control what I was feeling. Then I met you. You showed me what it means to fall in love and now, as I depart from you, I realize I have been feeding you sweet little lies." BLACK LIES Black lies are about simple and callous selfishness. We tell back lies when other gain nothing and the sole purpose is to either get ourselves out of trouble or to gain something we desire. The worst black lies are very harmful for others. Perhaps the worst gain us a little yet harm others a great deal. RED LIES Red lies are about spite and revenge. They are driven by the motive to harm others even at the expense of harming oneself. They may even be carved in blood. When we are angry at others, perhaps because of a long feud of where we feel they have wronged us in some way, we feel a sense of betrayal and so seek retributive justice, which we may dispense without thought of consequence.