MBTI

Why you struggle with self-love

ENFP: You spend too much time thinking about the next best thing. You have trouble staying in one place (physically or otherwise) because you think there are better things waiting on the other side of wherever you are, and you believe you’ll only be happy and whole once you get there. Take the time to realize where you are, and who you are, and how great things are right here where you’re standing. You’re worth loving right here where you’re standing.

INFP: You worry that you don’t know who you really are. You have so many thoughts flying around inside your mind. You spend a great deal of your life determine where you stand on things, and you hold true to the strong moral convictions you possess. Yet you’re also open to so many possibilities and perspectives, that sometimes you have trouble figuring out where you stand and what you really think…

And this causes you to doubt yourself and your worth more than you would like to admit. It’s okay that you’re still taking time to figure out the person you are, but you can still love yourself and your growth as you work your way to getting there. You can (and should) love yourself while you’re trying to get there.

ENTP: You value your ideas and whether they come to fruition too much. You have a lot of ideas, and you have a desire to see them come to life. Sometimes, they do, and it’s everything you hoped it would be. Other times, not so much, and you judge yourself and your worth a little too harshly. It’s okay that not every idea you want to happen ends up happening. Your value isn’t hinged solely on how successful you are with your ideas. You can still value yourself in the failures, simply because you were willing to try. Please, give yourself some credit for being willing to try.

INTP: You compare yourself to people around you. You spend a lot of time dwelling on ideas and solutions inside your head, but you don’t always follow through on the actions. This can cause you to look around at everyone else, particularly ones you admire, and compare yourself to them which can easily send you down a spiral of thinking you’re not good enough. You need to take the time to realize that just because you aren’t in the same place as other people doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy of love or are invaluable. Try to focus on yourself and making the things in your head a reality. You have a lot going for you that’s worth loving.

ESFJ: You’re trying to save everyone else all the time. You want to be the hero who saves the day, and truth be told you’re quite good at it. You gravitate towards people who need a helping hand, or just who end up needing somebody at all. You take their burdens upon your shoulders and do your best to be the savior they so desperately are searching for and you hinge your self-worth entirely on how many people you successfully “save.” Sometimes, there are people in this world who can’t be saved, and either way, it is not your sole responsibility to do so. You are still worthy of love despite how much you do for others. You have to learn to take care of yourself, too.

ISFJ: You’re always trying to make everyone else happy. There is nothing more that would make you happy than if everyone would just get along. If there is harmony amongst your friends, family, or coworkers, then all is right with the world. However, if there isn’t any harmony, you throw yourself into the chaos hoping to smooth things over.

You tend to value yourself by how effective you are at keeping the peace, and if no resolution can be made between people, even despite your best efforts, you tend to see yourself as pretty useless. However, not everyone in the world is going to get along all the time, and that’s perfectly okay. You are still worthy of love even if everyone else can’t seem to agree, and you should do your best to remember that you still have so many great things about you to give to this world.